SIMILARITY IN LOVE

If people could construct their mates, the mates would look, act, and think very much like themselves. By being attracted to people like ourselves, we are in effect validating ourselves, saying to ourselves that we are worthy of being liked, that we are attractive. Although there are exceptions, we generally like people who are similar to ourselves in nationality, race, ability, physical characteristics, intelligence, attitudes, and so on. We are often attracted to mirror images of ourselves.