DEFINATION OF LOVE BY YOUTH

Actually love can’t be defined in sentences. It is only made up of four letters “LOVE” but as it easy to say love only in 3 sec. It takes whole life to prove it. The word love is in itself beautiful. It can teach a right path to the people. Love is kind. When it is felt by heart, love can scarify, forgive and can create a new world. Love is God. If we can see God we can see love, if we can feel God then we can feel it. Love is the fact or strength of God due to which the entire world is existing.

ATTITUDE SIMILARITY IN LOVE

Similarity is especially important when it comes to attitudes. We are particularly attracted to people who have attitudes similar to our own, who like what we like, and who dislike what we dislike. The more significant the attitude, the more important the similarity. For example, it would not make much different if the attitudes of two people toward food of furniture differed (though even these can at times be significant), but it would be of great significance if their attitudes toward children of religion or politics were very disparate. Marriages between people with great and salient dissimilarities are more likely to end in divorce than are marriage between people who are very much alike.
Generally, we maintain balance with ourselves by liking people who are similar to us and who like what ourselves by liking people who are similar to us and who like what we like. It is psychologically uncomfortable to like people who do not like what we like or to dislike people who like what we like. Our attraction for similarity enables us to achieve psychological balance or comfort. The person who likes what we like in effect tells us that we are right to like what we like. Even after an examination it is helpful to find people who wrote the same answers we did. Notice the next time you have an examination how you prefer the company of other who have given the same answers as you!

MATCHING HYPOTHESIS OF LOVE

If you were to ask a group of friends, “To whom are you attracted?” they would probably name very attractive people; in fact, they would probably name the most attractive people they know. But if we were to observe these friends, we would find that they go out with and establish relationships with people who are quite similar to themselves in terms of physical attractiveness. Useful in this connection if the matching hypothesis, which states that although we may be attracted to the most physically attractive people, we date and mate with people who are similar to ourselves in physical attractiveness. Intuitively, this too seems satisfying. In some cases, however, we notice discrepancies; we notice an old person dating an attractive younger partner of an unattractive person with a handsome partner. In these cases, we will probably find that the less attractive partner possesses some quality that compensates for the lack of physical attractiveness. Prestige, money, intelligence, power, and various personality characteristics are obvious examples of qualities that may compensate for being less physically attractive.

SIMILARITY IN LOVE

If people could construct their mates, the mates would look, act, and think very much like themselves. By being attracted to people like ourselves, we are in effect validating ourselves, saying to ourselves that we are worthy of being liked, that we are attractive. Although there are exceptions, we generally like people who are similar to ourselves in nationality, race, ability, physical characteristics, intelligence, attitudes, and so on. We are often attracted to mirror images of ourselves.

Love Sayings

When you love someone, all your saved-up wishes start coming out.~ Elizabeth Bowen

So dear I love him that with him,All deaths I could endure.Without him, live no life.~ William Shakespeare, Romeo and Juliet

The most precious possession that ever comesTo a man in this worldIs a woman's heart.~ Josiah G. Holland

You love simply because you cannot help it.~ Kim Anderson

The greatest healing therapy is friendship and love.~ Hubert Humprey

Hearts are not to be had as a giftHearts are to be earned...~ William Butler Yeats

True love doesn't have a happy ending:True love doesn't have an ending.~ Anonymous

Love is not a matter of counting the years...But making the years count.~ Michelle St. Amand

A heart that loves is always young.~ A Greek Proverb If I know what love is,It is because of you.~ Herman Hesse
All love that has not friendship for its base,is like a mansion built upon the sand.~ Ella Wheeler Wilcox

Love is the emblem of eternity: it confounds all notion of time: effaces all memory of a beginning, all fear of an end.~ Germaine De Stael

Come live in my heart, and pay no rent.~ Samuel Lover

The life and love we create is the life and love we live.~ Leo Buscaglia

You don't love a woman because she's beautiful,She is beautiful because you love her.~ Anonymous

Love looks through a telescope; envy through a microscope.~ Josh Billings

True love begins when nothing is looked for in return.~ Antoine De Saint-Exupery

Just because someone doesn't love youin the way you want them to,doesn't mean that they don't love youwith all they've got.~ Anonymous

Love withers with predictability; its very essence is surprise and amazement. To make love a prisoner of the mundane is to take its passion and lose it forever.~ Leo Buscaglia

To get the full value of joyYou must have someone to divide it with.~ Mark Twain

In dreams and in love there are no impossibilities.~ Janos Arany

Love doesn't make the world go round,Love is what makes the ride worthwhile.~ Elizabeth Browning

We are all born for love...it is the principle existence and it's only end.~ Disraeli

We can only learn to love by loving.~ Iris Murdoch

Love is the master key that opens the gates of happiness.~ Oliver Wendell Holmes

Love is a fruit in season at all times,and within the reach of every hand.~ Mother Teresa

Since love grows within you, so beauty grows.For love is the beauty of the soul.~ St. Augustine

You can give without loving,But you cannot love without giving.~ Amy Carmichael To love is to receive a glimpse of heaven.~ by Karen Sunde

What the heart gives away is never gone ...It is kept in the hearts of others.~ Robin St. John

The human heart, at whatever age,opens to the heart that opens in return.~ Maria Edgeworth

Love, you know, seeks to make happy rather than to be happy.~ Ralph Connor

Absence sharpens love, presence strengthens it.~ Thomas Fuller

Paradise is always where love dwells.~ Jean Paul F. Richter

True love is eternal, infinite, and always like itself. It is equal and pure, without violent demonstrations: it is seen with white hairs and is always young in the heart.~ Honore de Balzac

Love Quotes...

“Love never claims, it ever gives. Love ever suffers, never resents never revenges itself.”--Mahatma Ghandi

“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.”--Corinthians

“Love is that condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own.”--Robert A. Heinlein

“Love never claims, it ever gives.”--Mohandas K. Ghandi

“My heart to you is given: Oh, do give yours to me; Well lock them up together, And throw away the key.”--Frederick Saunders

“Romantic love reaches out in little ways, showing attention and admiration. Romantic love remembers what pleases a woman, what excites her, and what surprises her. Its actions whisper: you are the most special person in my life.”--Charles Stanley

“Inside the heart of each and every one of us there is a longing to be understood by someone who really cares. When a person is understood, he or she can put up with almost anything in the world.” --Ed Hird

“Come live in my heart, and pay no rent.”--Samuel Lover
Men always want to be a woman's first love. Women have a more subtle instinct: What they like is to be a man's last romance.--Oscar Wilde

“You don't love a woman because she is beautiful, but she is beautiful because you love her.”--Anonymous

TYPES OF LOVE

LUDUS: ENTERTAINMENT AND EXCITEMENT
Ludus love is experienced as a game, The ludicrous lover sees love as fun, a game to be played. The better he or she can play the game, the more the love is enjoyed. To the ludicrous lover, love is not to be taken too seriously; emotions are to be held in check lest they get out of hand and make troble; passions never rise to the point at which they get out of control. Ludic love is a self-controlled love- a love that the lover carefully manages and controls rather than allowing it to control him or her.
Ludic lovers change partners frequently. Perhaps because love is a game, sexual fidelity is not something that is of major importance in a ludic love relationship. The ludic lover expects his or her partners to have had (and probably to have in the future) other partners and does not get upset if this happens occasionally during their relationship.
The ludic lover retains a partner only so long as the partner is interesting and amusing. When the partner is no longer interesting enough, it is time to change. In ludic love, there is no mutual claim and no long time commitment agreed upon by the partners. Instead it is experienced because it is fun, and when it stops being fun, the relationship is teminated.

STORGE: PEACEFUL AND SLOW
Like ludus, storge lack passion and intensity. But whereas the laudic lover is aware of passion but keeps it under control, the storgic lover is unware of any intensity of feeling. The storgic lover doesn’t set out to find a lover but establish a storge relationship with someone whom he or she knows and with whom he or she shares interests and activities. Storgic love develops over a period of time rather than in one mad burst of passion. Sex in storgic relationships comes late, and when it comes it assumes no great importance. One advantage of this is that storgic lovers are not plagued by sexual difficulties, as are so many other types of lovers
Storgic lovers rarely say “I love you” or even remember what many would consider romantic milestones such as the first date, the first date, the first weekend alone, the first verbalization of feelings of love, and so on. Storgic love is a gradual process of unfolding thoughts and feelings; the changes seem to come so slowly and so gradually that it is often difficult to define exactly where the relationship is at any point in time. Storgic love is sometimes difficult to separate from friendship: mutual caring, compassion, respect and concern for the other person,
Not only is storgic love slow in developing and slow-burning, it is also slow in dissolving. Storgic lovers can endure long periods of time away from each other without feeling that there is any problem with the relationship. Similarly, they may endure long periods of relative inactivity or lack of excitement without feeling there is any relationship problem.


MANAI: ELATION AND DEPRESSION
The quality of mania that separates if from all others is its extremes of highs and lows, of ups and downs. The manic lover loves intensely and at the same time intensely worries about and fears the loss of the love. This intense fear prevents the manic lover in many cases from deriving as much pleasure as might be derived from the relationship. At the slightest provocation, for example, the manic lover experiences extreme jealousy. Manic love is obsessive; the manic lover has to posses the beloved completely – in all ways, at all times. In return, the manic lover wishes to be possessed, to be loved intensely.
Manic lovers are often unhappy with life and so devote a great deal of energy to love. The manic lover’s poor self-image seems capable of being improved only by being loved; self-worth seems to come only from being loved rather than from any sense of inner satisfaction. The manic lover needs to give and to receive constant attention and constant affection. When this is not given, such reaction as depression, jealousy, and self-soubt are often experienced and can lead to the extreme lows characteristics of the manic lover.

PRAGMA: PRACTICAL AND TRADITION
The pragma lover is the practical lover who seeks a relationship that will work. Pragma lovers seek compatibility and relationship in which their important needs and desires will be satisfied. Computer matching services seem based largely on pragmatic love. The computer matches persons on the basis of similar interests, attitudes, personality characteristics, religion, politics, hobbies, and a host of likes and dislikes. The assumption is that persons who are similar will be more apt to establish relationships than will persons who are different.
In its extreme, pragma may be seen in the person who writes down the qualities wanted in a mate and actively goes about seeking someone to match these stated qualities. As might be expected, the pragma lover is concerned with the social qualifications of potential mate even more than personal qualities; family and background are extremely important to the pragma lover, who relies not so much on feelings as on logic. The pragma lover views love as a useful relationship, one that makes a rest of life easier. So the pragma lover asks such questions of a potential mate as “Will this person earn a good living?”, “Can this person cook?”, and “Will these person help me advance in my career?” Not surprisingly, pragma lovers’ relationships rarely deteriorate. This is true in part because pragma lovers have chosen their mates carefully and have emphasized similarities. Perhaps they have intuitively discovered what experimental research has conformed, namely, that relationships between similar people are much less likely to break up than are relationships among those who are very different. Another reason for the less frequent breakups seems to be that their romantic expectations are realistic. They seem willing to settle for less and, consequently, are seldom disappointed.

EROS: BEAUTY AND SEXUALITY
The erotic lover focuses on beauty and physical attractiveness, sometimes to the exclusion of qualities we might consider more important and more enduring. Furthermore the erotic lover has an idealized image of beauty that is unattainable in reality. Consequently the erotic lover often feels unfulfilled. Erotic lovers are particularly sensitive to physical imperfections in their beloveds – a nose that is too long, a complexion that is blemished, a figure that is a bit too full, and so an. And this is one reason why the erotic lover wants to experience the entire person as quickly in the relationship as possible.
Eros is an ago-centered love, a love that is given to someone because that person will return the love. It is in the sense of utilitarian, rational love because it is a calculated love with an anticipated return. Eros is an essentially hedonistic: it is a sensual love of the physical qualities of an individual; physical attraction is paramount. Eros is a discriminating type of love; it is selective in its own objects. It is directed as someone because he or she is valuable and can be expected to return equally valuable of love.